“Heat not a furnace for your foe so hot that it doth singe yourself.”
- William Shakespeare
We’ve all felt that strong desire to get even with someone that has wronged us. The “need” for retribution is so powerful, we often allow it to stir up unnecessary evil inside of us – in the end causing us more hurt instead of making us feel at peace. Revenge is an ugly beast. Focus instead on the positive things you can learn from negative experiences, and zero in on how it will make you a happier, more successful person in the long run. In the wise words of Dale Carnegie, “count your blessings, not your problems.”
Writing this, I’m reminded of another favorite quote of mine: “The best revenge is living well.”
“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.”
The old saying is true, laughter is the best medicine! That’s why I married a funny guy. He’s constantly got me in stitches (what a silly saying, btw).
P.S. It still feels weird to write “2011,” doesn’t it? I kind of like it, though. I’m usually more of an ‘even numbers’ type girl, but the freshness of the New Year and all the excitement and change that is waiting for you that year is just soo tasty, I am willing to embrace the odd number.
“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”
- Epictetus (55 – 135, Greek, philosopher)
I found this quote while watching a YouTube video featuring quotes from Dale Carnegie (and others) regarding how silly worry and anxiety are. Carnegie is the author of classic self-help books like How to Win Friends and Influence People and How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, which I’m currently reading.
Why am I reading some cheesy self-help book? You see, I’m admittedly an anxiety-addict, one of those people with the rare talent to worry myself into an unhealthy state of fear. Over the past few years, I’ve become more and more aware of my tendencies toward this behavior and have since been trying to find solutions that will help ease my nerves and allow me to let go of past mistakes and worries about the future. I’ve heard great things about Carnegie and his books, though this is my first time reading any of them. I figure if Warren Buffett is a fan, it’s worth giving it a shot. Who knows, I might just learn something that will change my life!
If you’ve read one of Carnegie’s books, give me your opinion. If you are a self-help junkie, feel free to shout it out in the comments. Or, share your non-medicinal remedies for worry and anxiety.
I’m a big believer in this one. It’s not always easy to be happy and kind to people who you feel might not deserve it, but I’m telling you, it actually does help. And yes, putting on a happy face and staying positive in every situation might come off as annoying to some, but it sure beats letting bad attitudes and sour, cynical comments seep into your own mood, leaving you feeling crummy and all-around bummed out (and then you carry that bad mood around with you for the rest of the day, putting other people in bad moods. It’s a terrible chain reaction.) Don’t stoop to that level. Don’t give into rudeness and let others hostility affect your own well-being. Kill ‘em with kindness! And move on with your day.